Friday, February 27, 2009

A Bit Of This And That

Brendan spent the day with more training. When and where they will be going is , as always , anyone's guess. For now he is happy to have a phone and to be able to call his wife. I still haven't been able to get any response from him on IM but Rachel keeps me updated. Sorry Mom's of small children but wives will always outrank you so you might as well let it sink in now. She also received a letter from his buddy Sandusky's Mom. He is in Taji and doing well. She also confirmed what has been passed on to us that many towns are still in bad shape there with raw sewage in the streets and poor conditions. I believe "Don't drink the water" goes for there as well. There is still unrest among different groups , especially the Shiites. Fighting and killing each other over religion....just never ceases to amaze me how absurd the idea is.
So Obama has said the war in Iraq will end in about 18 months. Of course you then read the fine print that shows we'll still be there but we'll be "training" and other such things. Don't even get me started on smoke and places it shouldn't be blown. Not sure what us "leaving" Iraq in 18 months will do to Brendan's tour. We were under the impression that , rather than spending money to train and send new troops over for a few months that those already there would have to stay longer. Then again Afghanistan is such a mess they might not have anyone to replace them with anyway since they'll all be in Afghanistan or Pakistan or what other country we'll be invading at the time. What can I say? I support our troops but I'm still the tree hugging hippy at heart.
One last note , I saw a survey today that said some 30 odd percent of folks think we shouldn't leave Iraq. Of those people who think that , show of hands , how many of you are willing to go over there or send your children over there? Anyone? Hey , look at the bright side , over there you'll at least still be able to exercise your 2nd amendment rights.

And now for your "Aaaawwwwwwwwwwwww" moment of the week.......

Matty T and Caveman

Photos Of Soldier's Coffins Again Allowed


Many people have been working hard to get Bush's decision to ban photos from being taken reversed. Their hard work has finally paid off.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/02/26/us/26web-coffins.html

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Camp Liberty

Rachel heard from Brendan in the wee hours of the morning. For now they are at Camp Liberty. For how long before they head out to their mission is unknown as are most things in the military. Here is a link to some pics of Camp Liberty. http://1-22infantry.org/pics3/liberty.htm At least I see a couple of green palm trees in the pics. Hopefully they'll be there long enough to get a couple of nights sleep in a real bed. They have internet there so maybe I'll be able to get some videos from Brendan soon. Here's another website I found that gives a brief rundown of the camp. Not sure the date this was posted so not sure how up to date it is. http://www.iraq-up-close-and-personal.com/camplibertyiraq.html
This is the website of the 1st Cavalry that Brendan is serving with. http://www.hood.army.mil/1stcavdiv/

Lasty , here's a video covering both camps Brendan has been at. It's 2007 video but gives you an idea.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WCk1PMdbD0

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Off To Iraq

Brendan was given about 45 minutes notice that they were pulling out and heading to Iraq. He was able to talk to me less than 2 minutes which really sucks but I'm glad I got to talk to him before he left. Odds are we won't have any word from him for a few weeks. I think the reality of the war just hit him in that moment they announced the pull out. I can't even imagine the feelings soldiers must go through as they are packing up. Life is now going to be completely different than anything they've ever imagined. That ever present feeling that they must always be alert of everything around them for the sake of their lives and other's. A sense of fear that you can never quite shake.
Rachel has started a yellow ribbon campaign of sorts. She went to her local florist and they gave her 2 ribbons for free to tie around the tree and mailbox in her yard. She's asked friends and family to do the same and send her pics. She's working on something for Brendan for his return. May have to tie the ribbon around the tree stump in the front yard. All the wind storms this year have taken care of most of our trees.
I found a website that sells charms and bracelets for deployed soldiers. Add that to my list of projects I have stacked up to concur. Will probably make my own just need to order the charms but they had italian charm bracelets at a really reasonable price.
As for me those of you who know me know I can get a bit worked up emotionally. The doc adjusted my meds and they seem to be helping somewhat. Just need to keep myself really busy. We're working on Jesse's room remodeling this week. I've got a massive pile of art projects , as well. You name it , curtains to finish , quilts to finish , a million cross-stitch projects....none of which I really have any desire to touch but will need to. I know they tell you not to watch the news while your kids are over there but that's all I can do. Just to hear any news or catch a quick glimpse of Brendan in a news reel and know he';s ok. War sucks!

Monday, February 23, 2009

Bryan Smitke Update

Brendan's brother , Bryan , popped up on his Facebook last week. First I've seen activity on there for quite some time. It was quite a relief to hear from him. He says he's doing well. He was taking a break from battles in Afghanistan and surely is never going mountain climbing ever in his civilian life.

Map Of Iraq



How many of us can even find Iraq on the map? Have to admit I wasn't exactly sure until Brendan left. Figured it would be a good idea to know exactly where in the world my son was.

New Update

Well, it appears Brendan actually has his orders this time. Can't give you any details here for his safety but if any of you are not on Rachel's update mailing list please email me and I can forward you the information given. I'm hoping to have his mailing address before he leaves as we most likely won't hear from him for awhile.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Article From The AP. Simply Disgraceful.

AP INVESTIGATION: Army charity hoards millions
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By JEFF DONN, AP National Writer – 1 hr 29 mins ago

AP – Army Community Services financial educator Yolanda Davis, center, talks with Pvt. Terrence Nicholas and …
FORT BLISS, Texas – As soldiers stream home from Iraq and Afghanistan, the biggest charity inside the U.S. military has been stockpiling tens of millions of dollars meant to help put returning fighters back on their feet, an Associated Press investigation shows.
Between 2003 and 2007 — as many military families dealt with long war deployments and increased numbers of home foreclosures — Army Emergency Relief grew into a $345 million behemoth. During those years, the charity packed away $117 million into its own reserves while spending just $64 million on direct aid, according to an AP analysis of its tax records.
Tax-exempt and legally separate from the military, AER projects a facade of independence but really operates under close Army control. The massive nonprofit — funded predominantly by troops — allows superiors to squeeze soldiers for contributions; forces struggling soldiers to repay loans — sometimes delaying transfers and promotions; and too often violates its own rules by rewarding donors, such as giving free passes from physical training, the AP found.
Founded in 1942, AER eases cash emergencies of active-duty soldiers and retirees and provides college scholarships for their families. Its emergency aid covers mortgage payments and food, car repairs, medical bills, travel to family funerals, and the like.
Instead of giving money away, though, the Army charity lent out 91 percent of its emergency aid during the period 2003-2007. For accounting purposes, the loans, dispensed interest-free, are counted as expenses only when they are not paid back.
During that same five-year period, the smaller Navy and Air Force charities both put far more of their own resources into aid than reserves. The Air Force charity kept $24 million in reserves while dispensing $56 million in total aid, which includes grants, scholarships and loans not repaid. The Navy charity put $32 million into reserves and gave out $49 million in total aid.
AER executives defend their operation, insisting they need to keep sizable reserves to be ready for future catastrophes.
"Look at the stock market," said retired Col. Dennis Spiegel, AER's deputy director for administration. Without the large reserve, he added, "We'd be in very serious trouble."
But smaller civilian charities for service members and veterans say they are swamped by the desperate needs of recent years, with requests far outstripping ability to respond.
While independent on paper, Army Emergency Relief is housed, staffed and controlled by the U.S. Army.
That's not illegal per se. Eric Smith, a spokesman for the Internal Revenue Service, said the agency can't offer an opinion on a particular charity's activities. But Marcus Owens, former head of IRS charity oversight, said charities like AER can legally partner closely with a government agency.
However, he said, problems sometimes arise when their missions diverge. "There's a bit of a tension when a government organization is operating closely with a charity," he said.
Most charity watchdogs view 1-to-3 years of reserves as prudent, with more than that considered hoarding. Yet the American Institute of Philanthropy says AER holds enough reserves to last about 12 years at its current level of aid.
Daniel Borochoff, president of the American Institute of Philanthropy, said that AER collects money "very efficiently. What the shame is, is they're not doing more with it."
National administrators say they've tried to loosen the purse strings. The most recent yearly figures do show a tilt by AER toward increased giving.
Still, Borochoff's organization, which grades charities, gives the Army charity an "F" because of the hoarding.
The AP findings include:
• Superior officers come calling when AER loans aren't repaid on time. Soldiers can be fined or demoted for missing loan payments. They must clear their loans before transferring or leaving the service.
• Promotions can be delayed or canceled if loans are not repaid.
• Despite strict rules against coercion, the Army uses pushy tactics to extract supposedly voluntary contributions, with superiors using language like: "How much can we count on from you?"
• The Army sometimes offers rewards for contributions, though incentives are banned by program rules. It sometimes excuses contributors from physical training — another clear violation.
• AER screens every request for aid, peering into the personal finances of its troops, essentially making the Army a soldier's boss and loan officer.
"If I ask a private for something ... chances are everyone's going to do it. Why? Because I'm a lieutenant," says Iraq war veteran Tom Tarantino, otherwise an AER backer. "It can almost be construed as mandatory."
Neither the Army nor Sgt. Major of the Army Kenneth Preston, an AER board member, responded to repeated requests for comment on the military's relationship with AER.
AER pays just 21 staffers, all working at its headquarters at Army Human Resources Command in Alexandria, Va. AER's other 300 or so employees at 90 Army sites worldwide are civilians paid by the Army. Also, the Army gives AER office space for free.
AER's treasurer, Ret. Col. Andrew Cohen, acknowledged in an interview that "the Army runs the program in the field." Army officers dominate its corporate board too.
Charities linked to other services operate along more traditional nonprofit lines. The Air Force Aid Society sprinkles its board with members from outside the military to foster broad views. The Navy-Marine Corps Relief Society pays 225 employees and, instead of relying on Navy personnel for other chores, deploys a corps of about 3,400 volunteers, including some from outside the military.
Army regulations say AER "is, in effect, the U.S. Army's own emergency financial assistance organization." Under Army regulations, officers must recommend whether their soldiers deserve aid. Company commanders and first sergeants can approve up to $1,000 in loans on their own say-so. Officers also are charged with making sure their troops repay AER loans.
"If you have an outstanding bill, you're warned about paying that off just to finish your tour of duty ... because it will be brought to your leadership and it will be dealt with," says Jon Nakaishi, of Tracy, Calif., an Army National Guard veteran of the Iraq war who took out a $900 AER loan to help feed his wife and children between paychecks.
In his case, he was sent home with an injury and never fully repaid his loan.
The Army also exercises its leverage in raising contributions from soldiers. It reaches out only to troops and veterans in annual campaigns organized by Army personnel.
For those on active duty, AER organizes appeals along the chain of command. Low-ranking personnel are typically solicited by a superior who knows them personally.
Spiegel, the AER administrator, said he's unaware of specific violations but added: "I spent 29 years in the Army, I know how ... first sergeants operate. Some of them do strong-arm."
Army regulations ban base passes, training holidays, relief from guard duty, award plaques and "all other incentives or rewards" for contributions to AER. But the AP uncovered evidence of many violations.
Before leaving active duty in 2006, Philip Aubart, who then went to Reserve Officer Training Corps at Dartmouth College, admits he gave to AER partly to be excused from push-ups, sit-ups and running the next day. For those who didn't contribute the minimum monthly allotment, the calisthenics became, in effect, a punishment.
"That enticed lots and lots of guys to give," he noted. He says he gave in two annual campaigns and was allowed to skip physical training the following days.
Others spoke of prizes like pizza parties and honorary flags given to top cooperating units.
Make no mistake: AER, a normally uncontroversial fixture of Army life, has helped millions of soldiers and families. Last year alone, AER handed out about $5.5 million in emergency grants, $65 million in loans, and $12 million in scholarships. Despite the extra demands for soldiers busy fighting two wars, AER's management says it hasn't felt a need to boost giving in recent years.
But the AP encountered considerable criticism about AER's hoarding of its treasure chest.
Jack Tilley, a retired sergeant major of the Army on AER's board from 2000 to 2004, said he was surprised by AP's findings, especially during wartime.
"I think they could give more. In fact, that's why that's there," said Tilley, who co-founded another charity that helps families of Mideast war veterans, the American Freedom Foundation.
What does AER do with its retained wealth? Mostly, it accumulates stocks and bonds.
AER ended 2007 with a $296 million portfolio; last year's tanking market cut that to $214 million, by the estimate of its treasurer.
Sylvia Kidd, an AER board member in the 1990s, says she feels that the charity does much good work but guards its relief funds too jealously. "You hear things, and you think, "`They got all this money, and they should certainly be able to take care of this,'" she said. She now works for a smaller independent charity, the Association of the United States Army, providing emergency aid to some military families that AER won't help.
Though AER keeps a $25 million line of bank credit to respond to a world economic crisis, its board has decided to lop off a third of its scholarship money this year. "We're not happy about it," Spiegel says.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

A Call Home




Brendan called home yesterday and we were able to talk for over 40 minutes which was pretty sweet. He's sounding good and seems to be able to keep himself busy. Most days start way too early in the morning with PT and training classes. He finally got to see the tanks in action the other day. I think he was a bit disappointed that they don't make more of a "BOOM". I'm sure the folks on the receiving end would beg to differ.
Brendan is one of only 2 infantry men in the unit so they've made a bond. Both are young privates and outsiders in the unit.One thing I've learned quick about the military is that everyone thinks they're better than the other. Brendan and his buddy spend alot of time working out in the gym and he's taking alot of protein to help him bulk up. As heavy as his bags are he's required to carry around he could use all the muscle he can get.
He bought a laptop before he left. Someone decided to use his bag as flooring and busted the laptop that was in it. That laptop is the one thing that keeps him in touch with Rachel and Caiden on a daily basis so he had to buy a new one.
Everyday plans seem to change as to when they are leaving for Iraq. It was next week , then it was next month then back again so who knows. Only thing for sure is that they'll be working along side the Marines. Love that considering how much the two always talk crap about the other. Since we are slowly pulling out if Iraq I don't see much use for tanks so I asked him what they would do. Just sit and wait for a need to blow something up? The answer is foot patrol.
He hasn't seen any combat pay or separation pay in his checks yet. Payroll always seems to be an issue in some way or another. With men moving from base to base and circumstances always changing it has to be hard to keep track of everything. Eventually it all seems to get straightened around. His leave days is another story. He came home as a hometown recruit after basic and was suppose to get those 14 days backs but he hasn't seen it yet.
Sobering news , these soldiers are also 1st Cav and left just weeks before Brendan did:

9-Feb 4 Lt. Col. Garnet R. Derby, 44, of Missoula, Mont. ,
Sgt. Joshua A. Ward, 30, of Scottsville, Ky.,
Pfc. Albert R. Jex, 23, of Phoenix, Ariz., and
Pfc. Jonathan R. Roberge, 22, of Leominster, Mass. died Feb. 9 in Mosul, Iraq, of wounds suffered when an improvised explosive device detonated near their vehicle. They were assigned to the 3rd Battalion, 8th Cavalry Regiment, 3rd Brigade Combat Team, 1st Cavalry Division, Fort Hood, Texas. This is a link to the article on these heros:
http://www.army.mil/-news/2009/02/19/17106-greywolf-battalion-commander-killed-by-ied-in-mosul-dies-alongside-three-of-his-personal-security-detachment-his-interpreter/index.html

Here is the website for the 1st Calvary:
http://www.hood.army.mil/1stcavdiv/


Here is a link to a journal written by a soldier stationed at Camp Buehring which is where Brendan is at the moment. He's got some great pictures of the camp so you can see what Brendan sees every day.
http://www.serving-in-iraq.com/Main-Pages/Serving_in_Iraq_Journal_Camp_Buehring%20_Kuwait.htm

And here's a blog that a comedian did on her trip to the camp.
http://www.jenisfamous.com/2007/08/mideast-tour-camp-buehring-kuwait.html

Here are some newspaper articles with some good pics.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/1761497/US-Army-070423145228

And lastly a great slide show of pictures found on the Stars and Stripes website.
http://www.stripes.com/08/mar08/5iraq/

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Cool Crafts


Went to a gun show yesterday with my hubby. This guy was displaying his crafts and they are pretty cool. Here's a link to see all he offers. I was also under the impression that he does custom work.

http://stores.shop.ebay.com/MadKowCrafts__W0QQ_armrsZ1

Friday, February 13, 2009

A Phone Call Home

This morning Brendan finally called home. It was so wonderful hearing his voice! He sounded good and seemed to be in pretty good spirits. They are keeping him busy with training and classes which is good...helps the time go a bit faster. I'm always amazed at the first aid training they get in the military. During basic they learned to give each other IV's. Down in Fort Hood he volunteered to have a tube shoved down his nose (pretty sure he won't be volunteering for that again!). In Kuwait they practiced on a dummy to stick a needle in someone's lung if it collapses. Keep it up and he'll be a doctor by the time he leaves the Army!!

He said the food at chow hall is pretty good. They have a KFC, Burger King and Taco Bell there but he's been eating in the chow hall. He's trying to live on $50 a week so he'll have a nice savings when he gets back. Best part of chow hall? They have a Baskin and Robbins and it's FREE! I KNOW!! There's also a movie house and the USO there is really nice. He says they have a lot of flat screen tvs and video games to keep the guys entertained. They also have musical groups coming there on a pretty frequent basis. Someone came and gave the guys camel rides. Brendan filmed it but didn't ride one. The video camera I bought him is getting quite a workout. Not sure when I'll get to see any of the things he's filming as the internet there is extremely slow.

Pretty sure he won't be wanting to hit the beach anytime soon after his return. Sand storms are pretty frequent in Kuwait. He says you can look out during a storm and see nothing but orange. You taste sand , get sand in your eyes...he HATES sand now! One item that appears on all the suggested care package lists is canned air. Got to blow all the sand out of your electronics. He's been told it's not near as bad in Iraq as the ground is harder there than it is in Kuwait.

As with everything Army dates are constantly changing for everything. He was thinking he'ld be in Iraq by the end of the month but now they gave him a date in March. The longer he's in Kuwait the easier I'll rest. As the Iraqi's take back their country the troops will slowly be moved out so not sure where he'll end up by the end of the year. For now he's anxious to get there so he can sleep in a bed , I'm sure. They are sleeping on stiff old army cots for now.

I was talking to Brendan about something and he started looking through his notes. he takes notes on everything he learns over there. Pretty amazing. I don't think he ever took notes in school!! I'm so proud of him. He's a great soldier and has really embraced the military life. He's just trying to stay focused on what he has to do and is allowing Rachel to make all the decisions for herself on matters here.

I see quite a few organizations who say they collect money for calling cards for the troops but I wonder how they get them. Brendan has been having to buy calling cards to call home.

I have had a really hard time since he left but hearing from him today has given me a jolt of positive energy. Just knowing he's doing ok and is sounding good is what I needed. Seems like he's been gone forever already. It's going to be a long year but I know in the scheme of life it'll be a blip on the map of time. Just wish I could hop a plane and visit him.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Injured Soldiers

We often hear about the soldiers who are killed but little attention is given to those who are injured. This is a link to an article on a soldier who was on the wounded angel list this week. I just received an email passing on the sad news that Kevin lost his fight.

http://www.patriotledger.com/news/state_news/x1851004653/Mom-Bridgewater-soldier-clinging-to-life-in-Texas

Please consider joining the soldier's angels. You'll receive a weekly list of injured soldiers who are needing letters. You are only asked to write one but can write as many as you like. This group also has a number of other ways you can help soldiers such as making blankets for injured soldiers , donating calling cards , adopting a soldier , care packages and much more. Whether you have a little time or a lot of time to offer there is something that everyone can do.

http://soldiersangels.org/

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Off To The Sandbox

February 4th Brendan headed to Kuwait. He'll be there for a few weeks before heading to Iraq. For how long is still to be seen.

First let me say NEVER book a flight with US Airways!! Rachel faced delays while flying down to Texas and then I was delayed on this trip. Missed my flight in Charlotte and got stuck there for 3 more hours. Got into Austin around 9:30pm. Took over an hour to get back to Killeen. We stopped at Friday's for Brendan's last meal. We then hit Walmart so I could get Brendan a camcorder. I wanted to make sure he could show us what life is like over there and , more importantly , he can video messages back to Caiden so he doesn't become a stranger to him. After all that running it was well after midnight before we got back to their place.

Brendan had to report to base at 5:00am. Rachel dropped him off and came back to the room. We were told family were to be there around 7:30am. Brendan called her back and said other family was hanging around so we rushed over to the base to get some precious time in with him. We hung in the parking lot until the gym opened around 8:00am. We were able to visit until about 9:00am. I tried to keep myself composed but when it got time to say good-bye I completely fell apart. There aren't too many things more painful in the world then seeing your child go off to war. Your job as a parent is to protect your kids. To see them heading off to a war zone is just completely heart wrenching. When he stepped onto the bus and looked out the window at me I could see Brendan going off to school for the first time. That look in his eyes that says "Mommy , I don't want to go!! Please can't I stay home?!" I still tear up just thinking about it and the memory of the bus driving away and disappearing around the corner. Adding to the scene was a little girl behind Rachel who was crying for Daddy to stay. Trust that Momma had a full blown ugly cry face on. Rachel was crying so hard she was snorting. Let's just say we've looked better!

Brendan was able to text and called from the stops along the way. First stop was Maine and then to Ireland before the final lag of the trip. He downloaded Skype but the internet over there is horrid. He and Rachel have found it easier to use MSN. He has a webcam so we were able to see him laying on his cot and were able to text him. Thank goodness for new technologies. No other mother was able to have contact so immediately with their soldier in any other war. It helps ease some of the worry. At least we don't have to wait weeks at a time to know if they're ok. I'm working at getting a cam for this mac and downloading MSN so we can see him here at home. Phone connections are frequently cut off. For every 10 times he tries to call he might connect once. If you connect you better say "I love you" and "I miss you" first thing so you are sure to get it in.

It rained over there which cooled things somewhat. His home is a big tent filled with cots. The soldiers share the tent with a massive family of mice. Brendan popped one's head open while he was chatting with Rachel. *ICK* First couple of days was just unloading equipment. He doesn't have a job yet which makes the days even longer. He should be getting something soon.

Once they head to Iraq his job will be Loader. (He's in a tank unit) He gets to load up the big guns. I am SO grateful to the old lady in Seattle who grabbed the wrong suitcase which caused Brendan to get set back a week waiting for his paperwork to get to Texas. He ended up having to go with a tank unit instead of the infantry brigade he was to be with. I can't think of anything safer to be in than a tank.

He won't have a mailing address while he's in transition. His email is Bsmitke@yahoo.com for those who would like to drop him a line. I don't know how often he is able to get the internet well enough to check it but he'll get it eventually. Just want an address as soon as possible so I can get some care packages sent out to him.

Here are some pics of the send off. I'm adding a quick video Rachel took of Brendan's bus leaving. He popped up and waved out the window as they drove off. I'm warning you , don't watch it if you don't want to cry. Rachel is crying pretty bad.
**NOTE: pics loaded up in some crazy order. You'll figure out the sequence. I'm too tired to mess with it***
























Monday, February 2, 2009

Heading South

Just a quick note before I take off in the morning.Was really hoping to have left on Friday so I could have more time to visit with Brendan but things never seem to go as planned. I'll be landing in Austin tomorrow night around 5:30pm their time. I'm taking a carry on only bag so I can get out of the airport as quick as possible. We'll be hitting Wal-Mart somewhere along the way to get Brendan a video camera to take with him. After a bite to eat will probably sit up most of the night visiting. Brendan has to be on base at 5:00am and family can be there around 7:00am. We'll be able to visit until the buses are ready to load. I'll try not to be a big baby but odds are I'll be blubbering before it's all over with. Brendan LOVES Peeps so I'm taking him a couple of boxes to chow down on.
We'll stay until Friday morning. Gives me time to tour the base and buy up some goodies at the Army Surplus store. First night we'll stop in Memphis. You can't drive through Memphis without stopping for BBQ. Not sure that I'll venture to Beale Street with a baby in tow. Thinking about hitting Corky's. I hear the BBQ is to die for. If Tom is nice I just may bring him back some. Besides Memphis is a good stopping point. It's about 9 hours from Killeen and just about the halfway point in the trip. If I had money to blow I'ld stay a day in Berea , Kentucky and hit all the wonderful shops. Haven't been there in years. But I better get back so my babies don't suffer too long without Momma's home cooking.
I'm sure to have a ton of pictures to post when I get back. Have a great week everyone and I'll see you in a week!